Letters to Ma Mama

Angela Carter pt 1

As you are aware, child abuse, sexual abuse, elder abuse, spouse abuse, we’ve covered it all on this program. And I will continue to do so in order to raise the awareness of these tragic and horrifying trends we see in society today. There is no excuse at all for abusing those you love or anyone for that matter. Period.

Our guest today is going to adding to the collection of interviews discussing these things as she shares from personal experience as well.

Angela Carter is originally from Barbados. Growing up, her mother, Geraldine, was her best friend. They shared everything.

But, Angela decided she wanted to pursue a new life in the United States. In unfamiliar territory and no support system in place, it was not long before she was married – to an abusive husband.

Whether it was shame of allowing it to happen or fear of sharing anything at all, she went years without saying anything to her mother… Angela wished she could have shared conversations with her mother – about a lot of things…

Angela is a Pastor and community advocate in upstate New York, where she has been serving the community there for over 30 years. She has been recognized for her contributions to her community with many accolades over the years, including the 2022 Woman of Distinction Citation from the New York State Assembly. Her passion is to help other victims share their stories and to find their voice. Amen!

She is the author of a great book that discusses the things she wishes she could have talked with her mother about, titled, “Letters to Ma Mama – All the Things I Never Said.”

First question I always start with is this. Other than that brief information I just shared, can you tell us in your own words “Who is Angela Carter?”

Let’s go back to, sort of, the beginning. You left Barbados to come to the United States.  First, in my mind, is WHY?  It is such a beautiful place!  God’s hand is all over that creation! Amen!

Seriously, can you share with us about growing up in Barbados? You came from a large family, correct?

At what age did you decide to launch out on your own and move to the United States?

What was life like for you when you started off on your own in the States?

You met your ex-husband when you were in the military?

You were stationed at Camp Casey, Korea? I know right where it is at. I was in Air Defense and we had a unit near there. Amen.

Were there any “signs” or “red flags” that you should have paid attention to as to what that relationship would become?

How long were you in the abusive relationship?

How did you finally settle in New York State?

Tell us about your life in Utica, NY and how you adapted to life there?

Why did you write this book, “Letters to Ma Mama – All the Things I Never Said,”  and why now?

This was your first book, correct?

As you have been helping other victims, what signs do you share with them to be watching out for? Control? Power?

What about psychological abuse – where there is no signs of physical abuse? (i.e. no visible marks, etc.).

Do you cover these topics in your book? Maybe by giving them examples that you went through that may turn a light on for them?

How did you make the decision to remove yourself from that environment?

How do you recommend women should try to seek help in these situations when fear is taking over?

Let me ask you, have you had any experience in helping men extricate themselves from abusive relationships?

Back on your book, “Letters to Ma Mama – All the Things I Never Said,” Did you ever share with your mother the things you were going through?

This was your first book. Are there any others coming out in the future?

Angela, this has been so interesting. Your information is definitely needed in this society we live in today. And your book, “Letters to Ma Mama – All the Things I Never Said,”  is definitely an inspirational story that people need to read. How can someone obtain a copy of your book? Is it on Amazon?

If someone wanted to reach out to you, to ask a question, get more information or maybe even do an interview such as this… how can they do that? How can they get in touch with you?

I’ll put links to all of this in the show notes below.

Folks, Angela lived through some things that nobody, man or woman, should go through. She went through it on her own. You don’t have to.

In the links below, you will find Angela’s contact information and I’ll put the links to the National Abuse Hotline as well.

Angela also wishes she could have had some heartfelt conversations with her mother – but didn’t. Her book, “Letters to Ma Mama – All the Things I Never Said,”  says it all. I urge you to drop down into the show notes and order your own copy of “Letters to Ma Mama – All the Things I Never Said,”  – and do it right now… while you are thinking about it. Amen!

Angela, thank you for taking the time to come on the program and share with us today. I do appreciate it.

Folks, that is all the time we have for today. For Angela Carter and myself, this is Pastor Bob reminding you to BE BLESSED IN ALL THAT YOU DO!

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Email:   angelaucarter10@gmail.com

Website:   https://angelaucarter.com/

Book:  “Letters to Ma Mama – All the Things I Never Said,” – on Amazon

National Domestic Violence Hotline:  1-800-799-7233