Milestone to Manhood
Do you have a son or maybe a grandson or nephew that is about to turn thirteen? We know entering those teenage years can be a very difficult time, for the boys and for the families. Testosterone is kicking in and they are learning how to handle all of these new feelings, etc.
They are seeking their independence and trying to stretch their wings a bit. That can cause some friction if you are not prepared for it yourself. Boys are this age are beginning to transition to manhood. But they really don’t know what it means. They think you are still wanting to treat them as your little boy, while they want to think of themselves as “grown up.”
Wouldn’t it be great if both of you could make that transition together?
Our guest today, Steven Arms, has written a great book titled, “Milestone to Manhood.” This book details his firsthand experience his family originated to have each of the male children go through at age 13. It culminates in a “Rite of Passage Weekend” to celebrate the transition to manhood for the boys.
We know the Jewish boys have their “Bar Mitzvah.” This can be celebrated along those same lines.
Help me welcome to the program, Steven Arms, as he is going to share all about this “Rite of Passage Weekend” and his book, “Milestone to Manhood!”
Steven, thank you for taking the time to join us today!
First question I always ask is this. Other than that brief information I just shared, can you tell us in your own words, “Who is Steven Arms?”
How did this family tradition get started?
Including you, how many of your family members, cousins, etc. ever participate in this event?
When a boy is turning thirteen, what is the difference in their outlook and attitude for not going through this as compared to those who do go through the weekend process?
That’s one reason many boys, especially in the city and urban areas, join gangs, etc. – to show they are “their own man?”
Walk us through the weekend. What does the weekend look like as far as activities and teachings and things like that?
What kind of preparations are there for this weekend? Are there certain things the boy has to demonstrate or accomplish before the weekend happens? Like a boy scout earning ribbons type thing?
Do you just walk into the bedroom at 330am and wake him up and say, “Let’s Go!?”
Is there anything like, “Go out and return with the tail feather of an eagle? Or something like that?”
So, this book, “Milestone to Manhood,” is to take care of the boys. You mentioned the daughters have one of these? Do they take the daughters out to the mall or something instead of camping?
When your son messes up, I mean, “boys will be boys” and, after all, they are “teenagers.” But when they do mess up, how does the punishments change? Like prior to, there may have been spankings or being grounded, etc. What about after this weekend?
Have you received any kind of feedback from readers of your book that has instituted this type of weekend for their kids and family?
Steven, this sounds so interesting. I wish we would’ve had something like this when I was growing up. My rite of passage occurred 4 days after I graduated from High School when I arrived at US Army Basic Training. After that – my grandfather and my father commented on how I had been changed. Praise God!
Steven, how can someone obtain a copy of your book, “Milestone to Manhood?” Is it on Amazon?
And the workbook is available on Amazon as well?
If someone wanted to get in touch with you, to ask questions or maybe to do an interview such as this, how can they do that? How can someone get in touch with you?
I’ll put links to all of this in the show notes below.
Folks, we can see the results of not having a way to show a young man that he IS a man, has huge ramifications in our society today. You can see this every single night on the evening news. Fighting. Recreational drugs. Excessive drinking. Shootings. The list goes on and on. The sad reality is that young men engage in risky behavior simply to prove, to themselves and to others, that they are a man.
But does it have to be this way? Is there anything that can be done?
Absolutely! And Steven Arms has put together the perfect resource for you to start a tradition that can now be passed down to you sons, then your grandsons and then your great-grandsons, etc.
You could be the starting point for a tradition that could span generations (if the Lord tarries). Amen! Think about the blessing that will be to you and to the generations that follow after you!
Pastors – you need to put together a program for the men in your church that might like to focus on this. Praise God! Imagine the number of men, AND THEIR SONS, that would want to participate in a program like this in your community! Amen!
Drop down into the show notes and contact Steven Arms. Use the link there to order you own copy of this great book, “Milestone to Manhood.” Order both, the book and the workbook. Order a couple of copies and pass them out to the men in your family and start to plan NOW for what could be – a great tradition to be carried on for generations. Amen!
Book: “Milestone to Manhood” – on Amazon
Workbook: “The Workbook Milestone to Manhood” – on Amazon